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Leadership

Mosiah 2:10-11 / Mosiah 6:7 (Moral Leadership)

Mosiah 11:2-4 -King Noah is an example of a bad leader

Mosiah 18:26 - priests were not to depend on the people, labor themselves

Mosiah 24:8- Amulon given power, but it got to his head, began to persecute others beneath him

Alma 48:7 "obtaining power by fraud and deceit"

"Ordinary people who faithfully, diligently, and consistently do simple things that are right before God will bring forth extraordinary results" -Elder David A. Bednar

Matthew 5:14-16 "Ye are the light of the world. A city that is set on a hill cannot be hid. Neither do men light a candle, and put it under a bushel, but on a candlestick; and it giveth light unto all that are in the house. Let your light so shine before men, that they may see your good works, and glorify your father which is in heaven"

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Learning

D&C 136:32- learn wisdom by humbling himself

"Ah yes, the past can hurt. But the way I see it, you can either run from it, or learn from it" -Rafiki from Lion King

Mosiah 21:8-12 - Lamanites went to war against the people of Limhi, breaking their oath. They won- so the people of Limhi went up against them and lost, went a second time and lost, went up a third time, and lost again. They did not learn from their mistakes until verse 13 when they finally humbled themselves.

"Knowledge speaks but wisdom listens" -Jimi Hendrix

"Sometimes the questions are complicated and the answers are simple" -Dr. Seuss

“Those who cannot remember the past are condemned to repeat it” George Santayana

"The past is to be learned from but not lived in" -Jeffrey R. Holland

See "Remember Lot's Wife" by Jeffrey R. Holland

"God doesn’t care nearly as much about where you have been as He does about where you are and, with His help, where you are willing to go" -Jeffrey R. Holland

"If you want to get better at loving, love people who are tough to love. You'll never learn forgiveness if you're not around people you must forgive. If you want to learn patience, you need to be around people who try your patience" -Kent Brooks

3 Nephi 17:3 "ponder upon the things which I have said, and ask of the Father, in my name, that ye may understand, and prepare your minds for the morrow, and I come unto you again"

"If the purpose for learning is to score well on a test, we've lost sight of the real reason for learning" -Jeannie Fulbright

"When you're curious, you find lots of interesting things to do" -Walt Disney

"The past is behind- we must learn from it. The future is ahead -we must prepare for it. The present is now- we must live in it" -Thomas S. Monson

Mormon 9:31 "Condemn me not because of mine imperfection… but rather give thanks unto God that he hath made manifest unto you our imperfections, that ye may learn to be more wise than we have been"

Ether 2:19- 3:16 "There is no light, and we cannot breathe"… The Lord answers him in verse 20, but only addresses the breathing situation. The brother of Jared asks again in 22 about lighting. The Lord answers with simply what he cannot do- fire or windows. The Lord will make your idea work. Figure it out and move forward, don't wait for a confirmation. You know what not to do, but you don't know what to do. Look for a solution then ask him. The rocks work as a result of his faith and effort. The Lord will give you more of a "no" than a "yes". "You are the child of a creator… so create! You are the creative force of your life" (Hank Smith). The brother of Jared goes to the Lord with sixteen stones and is embarrassed and feels completely incompetent (3:2-5), but shows extreme faith, diligence, and selflessness.

Moroni 7:15 "For behold, it is given unto you to judge, that ye may know good from evil; and the way to judge is as plain, that ye may know with a perfect knowledge, as the daylight is from the dark night"

"People generally see what they look for, and hear what they listen for" -To Kill a Mockingbird

“If our lives and our faith are centered on Jesus Christ and his restored gospel, nothing can ever go permanently wrong. On the other hand, if our lives are not centered on the Savior and his teachings, no other success can ever be permanently right" -President Howard W. Hunter

Matthew 5:19 "Whosoever shall do and teach them, the same shall be called great in the kingdom of heaven"

"Overcoming and gaining spiritual strength… is the only true advancement in man's eternal course of progress" -Jesus the Christ

"See how far you've come, not how far you have to go" -Kent Brooks

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Listening

"Knowledge speaks but wisdom listens" -Jimi Hendrix

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Love

John 15:13 - greatest love is one who lays down his life for his friends

"Love is a partnership of two unique people who bring out the very best in each other and who know that even though they are wonderful as individuals, they are even better together" -Barbara Cage

"Love is just a word until someone comes along and gives it meaning" -anon

"Love is having so little, and yet having it all" -Sugarland

"How lucky I am to have something that makes saying goodbye so hard" -Winnie the Pooh

"Kindness is a language that the deaf can hear and the blind can see" -Mark Twain

"Sometimes people are beautiful. Not in looks, not in what they say. Just in what they are" -Markus Zusak

"Never love anybody who treats you like you're ordinary" -Oscar Wilde

"Charity: the highest, noblest, strongest kind of love…the pure love of Christ" -Bible Dictionary

"Be one who nurtures and builds. Be one who has an understanding and forgiving heart, who looks for the best in people. Leave people better than you found them" -Marvin J. Ashton

"To love another person is to see the face of God" -Victor Hugo, Les Miserables

Alma 53/56- 2000 stripling warriors

"Do not waste time bothering whether you love your neighbor; act as if you did. As soon as we do this we find one of the great secrets of life. When you are behaving as if you loved someone, you will come to love him… if you do him a good turn, you will find yourself disliking him less… The difference between a true Christian and a worldly man is that the worldly man treats certain people kindly because he likes them: the Christian, trying to treat everyone kindly, finds himself liking more and more people as he goes on- including people he could not have even imagined himself liking in the beginning" -C.S. Lewis

"Love is the most powerful force in the world" -Dallin H. Oaks

"When someone else's happiness is your happiness, that is love" -Lana Del Rey

3 Nephi 17- Christ needs to leave the people to go teach the other 'lost tribes', but the people want him to stay longer. Rather than turn them away, he stays with them longer. Even though the other decision was important, he sacrificed and chose to stay longer

Choose your love; love your choice

"I carry your heart with me. I carry it in my heart. I am never without it anywhere I go you go, my dear. And whatever is done by only me is your doing, my darling. I fear no fate for you are my fate, my sweet" -E. E. Cummings

"The crowning characteristic of love is always loyalty" -Jeffrey R. Holland

Romans 3:10 "Love worketh no ill to his neighbor; therefor love is the fulfilling of the law"

Ephesians 5:2, 25, 33 "And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweet smelling savour… Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it… Nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself; and the wife see that she reverence her husband"

"True love is a process. True love requires person action. Love must be continuing to be real. Love takes time" -Marvin J. Ashton

"Love, as defined by the Lord, elevates, protects, respects, and enriches another. It motivates one to make sacrifices for another" -Elder Richard G. Scott

"Perfect love is perfectly patient" -Elder Neal A. Maxwell

"Love is having no secrets" -Elder Scott

"Love is a verb. It isn't what you say, but what you do" -anon

The 4 tests of true love (John Wildsoe)

• True love of man and woman will always include the love of God and proof is in what we do (obedience)
• Love is always founded in truth
• Love does no offend, or hurt, or injure the loved one
• As good as these tests are, true love sacrifices for the loved one

"Love is more a choice, an ability, an action, than it is a feeling" -anon

"The 5 Love languages" (usually 'fluent' in one- but God speaks all, so become like God)

1. Words of Affirmation
1. Words that validate someone else, help them feel understood and appreciated
2. Express words like "I love you" or "I believe in you" --Listen!
1. To validate feelings, we have to first accept them (listen)
2. Understand their feelings (you may have to change yourself)
3. Nurture the feelings (eye contact, "wow" "I'm so sorry" "then what?" --inspire courage

2. Quality time
1. Spend one on one time with them
2. The number one source of contention with spouses is the amount of time spent with each other
3. Not being physically together-- it's about connectedness
4. May have to expand your interests
5. Create feeling that 'right now, no one else is as important to me as you are'
6. No cellphones!
7. After marriage, make time to be together, but don't just problem solve or vent- be happy
8. Be careful about previous dating stories (don't tear down the ex to build up your current significant other)

3. Receiving gifts
1. Price doesn't matter, just shows that you were thinking of them (could be free, could be 50$)
2. Remember birthdays, anniversaries, be spontaneous
3. Gift of time/self- knowing you are there
4. Loyalty is most important to them, being true when you're together or not

4. Acts of service
1. Service isn't convenient
2. Be willing to prioritize your spouse
3. Learn to ask "how can I help you today" - change a diaper, do the dishes, make dinner, help your spouse

5. Physical touch
1. Can occur throughout the day - a hand on the shoulder, running hands through the hair, etc
2. 1 Corinthians 7:5- do not abstain from physical touch and sexual intimacy except by mutual consent or mutual agreement, and then only for brief periods of time.
3. “Depart ye not one from the other, except it be with consent for a time. . . . and [then] come together again, that Satan tempt you not” (1 Corinthians 7:5).

All couples have times when sexual relations are not possible (such as when one of the spouses is away from home) or are not desired (at times during pregnancy, after the birth of a child, or when one or both are sick or fatigued). Abstaining for long periods of time can open the door to temptation. That is true for all forms of intimacy. Sexual intimacy can provide a powerful draw or connection between husband and wife that can be a protection against temptation.

The General Handbook of Instructions for priesthood leaders suggests another reason why sex was created and established by our Heavenly Father as part of the plan of happiness. It states:

“Married couples should understand that sexual relations within marriage are divinely approved for the purpose of strengthening the emotional and spiritual bonds between husband and wife” (158).

As we struggle through mortality, we encounter many challenges—opposition in all things. Life can beat down upon us and drain us. Physical intimacy can be a powerful way to lift or encourage or comfort a partner during times of difficulty. Physical touch can be a powerful way to repair, heal, and rebuild the bonds of love between husband and wife that have become strained. Physical touch, including sexual intimacy, can be a means of lifting the spirit, of providing a diversion from the stresses and pressures of life. It can bring enjoyment, pleasure, and help maintain the fun and playfulness important in marriage. Sexual intimacy can be a powerful form of therapy.

"Let no man pull you low enough to hate him" -Martin Luther King, Jr.

"True Christianity is love in action" -David O. McKay

Moroni 7:46 "If he have not charity, ye are nothing, for chairty never faileth. Wherefore, cleave unto charity, which is the greatest of all, for all things must fail. But charity is the pure love of Christ, and it endureth forever; and whoso is found possessed of it at the last day, it shall be well with him"

Moroni 7:48 "Pray unto the Father with all the energy of heart, that ye may be filled with this love"

Moroni 8:16 "perfect love casteth out all fear"

"I come to you tonight with a plea that we stop seeking out the storms and enjoy more fully the sunlight. I am suggesting that as we go through life we try to 'accentuate the positive'. I am asking that we look a little deeper for the good, that we still our voices of insult and sarcasm, that we more generously compliment virtue and effort" -Gordon B. Hinckley

Moroni 10:32 "Come unto Christ, and be perfected in him, and deny yourselves of all ungodliness; and if ye shall deny yourselves of all ungodliness, and love God with all your might, mind, and strength, then is his grace sufficient for you, that by his grace ye may be perfect in Christ; and if by the grace of God ye are perfect in Christ, ye can in nowise deny the power of God"

Matthew 1:19 "Then Joseph, her husband, being a just man, and not willing to make her a public example, was minded to put her away privily… but while he thought on these things, behold, the angel of the Lord appeared unto him in a dream, saying Joseph, thou son of David, fear not to take thee Mary thy wife: for that which is conceived in her is of the Holy Ghost"

• Joseph was kind and patient and slow to anger

• The spirit does not come when we are angry or worked up- Joseph had to be willing and open to the spirit in order for him to come

"A life without love is no life at all" -Ever After

"True love endures" -Elder Holland

"Love makes us instinctively reach out to God and other people. Lust, on the other hand, is anything but godly and celebrates self-indulgence. Love comes with open hands and open heart; lust comes with only an open appetite" -Elder Jeffrey R. Holland

"They do not love that do not show their love" -Shakespeare

"You cannot hide the heart when the mouth is open" -Brigham Young